Archive: Oct 2015

  1. Being Disabled, Kinky, & Into BDSM: Disabled Little & Disabled Daddy Dom Speaks Out (Part 3)

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    The “Being Disabled, Kinky, & Into BDSM” mini series continues with the sharing of stories from a disabled Little, and a disabled Daddy Dominant (Daddy Dom).  Rachel* and Phil* shares insight into how one’s disabilities can affect their roles within the DD/lg relationship dynamic, as well as ways disabilities can prove to be a bonus to their sexual self-expression and satisfaction.  These two perspectives are important because both show that having a disability does not mean that one cannot express themselves sexually (as society tends to believe) or prevent them from being engaging in loving, healthy relationships.  Having a disability does not equate to being asexual or unlovable; and it is incredibly ableist and offensive to dismiss the importance of sexuality and worthiness of sexual expression simply due to disability status(es).  

    Without further ado, let’s read what our disabled BDSM’ers have to say.  

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  2. Being Disabled, Kinky, & Into BDSM: Disabled Littles Share Their Stories (Part 2)

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    For Part 2 of the “Being Disabled, Kinky, & Into BDSM” mini series, I wanted to take a look into the lives of disabled Littles.  To each person who expressed interest in sharing their story, I asked them to share about themselves, their disabilities, and how they got into the DD/lg [Daddy Dom/Little Girl] lifestyle.  If they were disabled Littles specifically, I asked how they felt about their disability possibly being a barrier or a plus in attracting and finding future Daddy Doms.  For some, the disability factor was something they considered in attracting a partner while for others it was not that huge of a barrier in relationships.

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  3. Being Disabled, Kinky, & Into BDSM: Exposing the Truth for National Kink Month (Part 1)

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    October is National Kink Month, an observance established by Stockroom.com in 2012.  October seemed to be a fitting month for such a recognition to be held due to the fact that Halloween is a very popular adult holiday – the costumes men and women wear are provocative, and allows for one to express themselves publicly in attire that would not be deemed “suitable” any other day in the year.  This acceptance of sexual exploration and expression on Halloween caused those within Stockroom to view it as the perfect season to create understanding about BDSM and fetish play, and debunk the myths and inaccuracies that surrounds the lifestyle.  Stockroom’s founder Joel Tucker sums the idea surrounding National Kink Month in the following statement:  

    “Kinky sex is based on experimentation, adventure, and exploration of roles and dynamics that are often different from the day-to-day lives we lead.  Halloween, for adults, is an occasion for playing with sexy costumes, assumed identities, and the enjoyment or humor in the darker side of life.  (Think of ‘The Addams Family.’) Kink, Halloween, and the month of October are a natural fit.”

    (Excerpted from “Stockroom.com Declares October is National Kink Month” from MarketWired.com.)

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  4. High School Student Invents Wheelchair Stroller for Disabled Parents

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    Photograph of Sharina Jones testing out the wheelchair stroller she’ll be using with her baby.

    As someone who may want to become a disabled parent one day, one of the many concerns I have is how I would carry my child around as a wheelchair user.  I know that there are baby wraps that I can wear while my child is very small, but as she/he grows, I will need something that will grow with her/him and allow me to transport them to and fro safely and comfortably.  This need is one that has been grossly overlooked in the parenting/baby supplies industry.  Imagine my excitement when I learned about a high school student from Michigan who invented a wheelchair stroller to bridge that gap for parents in wheelchairs.  I had to feature it for the “Tools You Can Use” series because this is a product that would personally improve my abilities as a future disabled mother.  

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  5. Growing Up Disabled & Of Color: Call to Share the Voices of Disabled People of Color in New Blog Series

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    This year, I have written about growing up disabled and being of color, and how those dual identities have affected the opportunities and experiences I have had in my 30 years of life.  On social media, I have seen disabled people of color share their stories about embracing their identities, and overcoming the internalized self-hate for who and what they are.

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