After reading what disabled Littles and a Daddy Dom had to say about their experiences and their roles over the past two weeks for the “Being Disabled, Kinky, & Into BDSM” mini series, it is now time for me to share my own story as a Disabled Little.
The “Being Disabled, Kinky, & Into BDSM” mini series continues with the sharing of stories from a disabled Little, and a disabled Daddy Dominant (Daddy Dom). Rachel* and Phil* shares insight into how one’s disabilities can affect their roles within the DD/lg relationship dynamic, as well as ways disabilities can prove to be a bonus to their sexual self-expression and satisfaction. These two perspectives are important because both show that having a disability does not mean that one cannot express themselves sexually (as society tends to believe) or prevent them from being engaging in loving, healthy relationships. Having a disability does not equate to being asexual or unlovable; and it is incredibly ableist and offensive to dismiss the importance of sexuality and worthiness of sexual expression simply due to disability status(es).
Without further ado, let’s read what our disabled BDSM’ers have to say.
For Part 2 of the “Being Disabled, Kinky, & Into BDSM” mini series, I wanted to take a look into the lives of disabled Littles. To each person who expressed interest in sharing their story, I asked them to share about themselves, their disabilities, and how they got into the DD/lg [Daddy Dom/Little Girl] lifestyle. If they were disabled Littles specifically, I asked how they felt about their disability possibly being a barrier or a plus in attracting and finding future Daddy Doms. For some, the disability factor was something they considered in attracting a partner while for others it was not that huge of a barrier in relationships.
October is National Kink Month, an observance established by Stockroom.com in 2012. October seemed to be a fitting month for such a recognition to be held due to the fact that Halloween is a very popular adult holiday – the costumes men and women wear are provocative, and allows for one to express themselves publicly in attire that would not be deemed “suitable” any other day in the year. This acceptance of sexual exploration and expression on Halloween caused those within Stockroom to view it as the perfect season to create understanding about BDSM and fetish play, and debunk the myths and inaccuracies that surrounds the lifestyle. Stockroom’s founder Joel Tucker sums the idea surrounding National Kink Month in the following statement:
“Kinky sex is based on experimentation, adventure, and exploration of roles and dynamics that are often different from the day-to-day lives we lead. Halloween, for adults, is an occasion for playing with sexy costumes, assumed identities, and the enjoyment or humor in the darker side of life. (Think of ‘The Addams Family.’) Kink, Halloween, and the month of October are a natural fit.”
(Excerpted from “Stockroom.com Declares October is National Kink Month” from MarketWired.com.)
Photograph of Sharina Jones testing out the wheelchair stroller she’ll be using with her baby.
As someone who may want to become a disabled parent one day, one of the many concerns I have is how I would carry my child around as a wheelchair user. I know that there are baby wraps that I can wear while my child is very small, but as she/he grows, I will need something that will grow with her/him and allow me to transport them to and fro safely and comfortably. This need is one that has been grossly overlooked in the parenting/baby supplies industry. Imagine my excitement when I learned about a high school student from Michigan who invented a wheelchair stroller to bridge that gap for parents in wheelchairs. I had to feature it for the “Tools You Can Use” series because this is a product that would personally improve my abilities as a future disabled mother.
This year, I have written about growing up disabled and being of color, and how those dual identities have affected the opportunities and experiences I have had in my 30 years of life. On social media, I have seen disabled people of color share their stories about embracing their identities, and overcoming the internalized self-hate for who and what they are.
Important Disability-Related Videos You Should Watch
Here's the Out of Step's TOOST Radio interview I participated in as a panelist on Nov. 6th, 2013. During the interview, I discussed my personal & professional viewpoints about the choice of discussing disability status while seeking employment opportunities. The part that I'm featured begins 15:29 minutes into the interview.
In this video, Beyoncé helps Kid President with World Humanitarian Day 2013. The Kid President has OI like I do. I think that his messages are ones that all walks of life & ages can learn from. I'm so jealous that he met one of my idols & favorite music performers, Beyoncé! I wanted to share with you all the interview the Kid President did with Beyoncé for World Humanitarian Day, which was August 19th, 2013.